Yikes

I’ve truly meant to update more often!  But I’ve had a teething almost-ten-month-old to deal with the last week, and every minute I have alone, I kind of just want to lie down in silence.  Maybe in my bed with the covers over my head.

Teething is pure evil.  Not a lot can make you feel worse for your child.  Hazel has to be in some serious pain, especially when the tooth is cutting through.  As far as I can tell, she only has one tooth coming, next to her other lonely tooth.  So now she shall be called The Two Teeth Wonder henceforth.  Napping has been a disaster.  I don’t know what I will get from her day to day.  Today she has been fairly happy and sweet, if not slightly annoying by making a bee-line for any and all things plugged into the wall.  This past weekend, however, was an entirely different story.

We had Mega-Brat on our hands.  She hated basically everything imaginable, did not want to nap, woke up during the night, and was just all around whiney.  But, this weekend we didn’t know she was teething.  I even gave her ibuprofen, because I suspected, but it didn’t seem to help her demeanor at all.  That made me think she wasn’t.

And then last night, while she was giving me this huge smile that showed every millimeter of gums, I could see it there, red and swollen.  How she could even smile like that with a sharp milk tooth lurking just under the skin I will never know.  I suppose that’s the resiliency of infants.  And possibly why we don’t remember shit from being that age; it’s too traumatic to remember.

Anyway, right now we are having “quiet time.”  This is where she sits in her crib and takes short snoozes and plays with her favorite stuffed animal, and I sit on the computer writing a blog post.  Other times I eat.  Or take a shower.  Or catch up on TV from the last week.  I’m ready for this tooth to break though so we can get back to normal, at least until the next tooth.  Or ten teeth, considering her age and how few she currently has.

I previously mentioned eating during quiet time, so I probably ought to do that.  Have a great day, and send good vibes to little Haze and hope we all get through this.

Late As Usual

I’m late in wishing everyone in the wordpress universe a happy New Year!  I can’t believe we’re already 7 days into 2015.  But, time has no meaning when you’re a stay at home mom.

We arrived back home in Texas on January 3, and had a relatively decent drive back down.  No real hiccups or meltdowns, and it didn’t seem to take forever.  There is nothing as satisfying as your own bed after being gone for two weeks.  Especially our bed.  It’s like sleeping on a cloud.  I sometimes wish I had more time to spend in it.

That being said, we were also slightly sad to leave Illinois, but it seems we left just in time considering their freezing temperatures today.  We had a really nice visit, and got to see pretty much everyone we wanted to see.  (I would hope so since we were there for ten days.)  I saw a few movies and even got to spend New Year’s Eve with my two best friends.  Who knows when that will happen again?  We had three Christmases with different family members.

Even though we had a wonderful time, I don’t think we will be back next year.  I’ll be going back the week of Easter for the babies’ first birthdays, and that will probably be the only time.  I do encourage visitors, however.

As for resolutions, I have to say I don’t really believe in making them, therefore I have none.  I already know some of what this year will hold, and I’m looking forward to those things.  There are some things still up in the air, and I’m ready to see those matters resolved in due time.  Sorry to be so cryptic, but I’ll probably write separate blog posts on that stuff when the time comes.

I just really wanted to put something down for 2015, and I have a few posts I’d like to do in mind, so I hope to get those down in the next week or two.  Thanks for sticking with my blog through these slower months.  Things have been busy with Hazel getting into everything (she is no longer a blob that lies on the floor all day) and I’ve had less naps to work with.  I do hope to pick up posting more frequently in the future.

Other People’s Kids

If you judge this post by the title, you might think I’m going to start complaining about how other people raise their kids.  Really, I don’t care about that at all.  This is about posting pictures of other people’s kids on social media.

We’ve all seen “friends” on facebook that are posting pictures of their nieces or nephews or those posting pics of their friend’s children.  I’m here to tell you, this drives me up the wall.  I cringe when I see people posting daily pictures of their week old nephew, most likely without asking the parent’s permission.

Here’s why it annoys me: Nobody should publicly post a child’s picture for literally the whole world to see without asking for the parent’s permission, if ever at all.  In my opinion, a parent is the only person who can protect their child’s “internet identity,” and the more random people posting pictures of your child, the harder this will be.

I understand we live in a very strange world, where we feel like we must share every moment with every person we know.  So seeing your best friend’s baby is exciting, and you want everyone to know how lucky you are to know such an awesome tiny human.  We parents are so glad you feel this way about our baby, but at the same time, our children deserve to build their own online identity when they are old enough.  It shouldn’t be done for them when they can’t even lift their heads yet.

I do post a picture of Hazel once or twice per month on my facebook page, to share with family and the small amount of friends I have on there.  I also have an instagram in which I post a picture or two per week, but you have to request to see them, or have the link to this blog to view them on here.  And, of course, I share them on here from time to time because WordPress doesn’t own my pictures like facebook does when I post them.  I am in charge of what pictures are posted, and I wouldn’t appreciate someone posting her pictures without my expressed permission.

So before you post a picture of someone else’s children on your facebook, think twice.  Ask them for permission, or send them the photo to decide if they’d like to post it themselves.  And thank you to everyone who does ask first.  It’s greatly appreciated.

Reflection

The year is almost over.  And what a year it’s been.  A lot of ups and downs and in betweens.  December last year, I had such high hopes that 2014 would be the best year of my life.  I wasn’t wrong.  But it’s also been the hardest and most rewarding and there were many surprises along the way.

At the beginning of the year, I was about six to seven months pregnant.  I was looking forward to the day when I’d get to meet Hazel, and looking forward to the day my sister gave birth to her baby Daniel eight weeks after.  We would both have healthy, perfect babies and get to see each other.  Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case.  In January, Erin was admitted to the hospital at only 24 weeks pregnant essentially because her water broke.  I was really scared for her, especially when we found out she would remain in the hospital until he decided it was the right time to enter the world.

The next month and a half dragged on.  Every morning I was expecting to wake up to missed calls or texts that Erin had gone into labor and Daniel was here.  March 10 was the day that he arrived, when Erin was only 30 weeks pregnant.  Despite the fact that she had steroid injections, Daniel didn’t grow much even though he was still “on the inside.”  He was only three pounds.  He had to fight for his life all 80 days he was in the NICU.  So I was still pregnant on March 10, and at this point I had accepted that we wouldn’t have the life we had dreamed with the perfect babies and the play dates every few months and things like that.  Instead we were introduced to Chronic Lung Disease, which makes it a bad idea for Daniel to travel during the flu season.  And it’s what made his journey in the hospital so difficult.

I was worried every day he was in there.  I couldn’t see my sister (I live in Texas and she lives in Pennsylvania) so I didn’t know how she was really feeling.  And even if I knew, how could I relate to what she was going through and what would I say?  I felt terrible feeling so terrible in the end of my pregnancy.  Any time I felt uncomfortable and huge I just felt guilty that Erin would have done anything to have felt this, so I should just suck it up!  (Even though being hugely pregnant is really difficult and super uncomfortable.)  She put on a brave face and was happy for me when Hazel came just twelve days after Daniel, on her due date no less.  I wished so badly she could have been there, and I wished so badly that I could have been there for her through her pain and worry and crippling anxiety.  But that’s not what happened.

Instead we kept conversations light for awhile, until we knew for sure Daniel was going home.  The day he left the hospital (of course) it was discovered that he had a hernia.  I asked Pam if she would come stay and watch Hazel for a week so I could go help Erin during his recovery after his surgery to correct it.  She agreed, so off I went.

The day I arrived, his hernia was critical.  A stranger was sent to pick me up from the airport, and Daniel was at the hospital prepping for surgery (one day before the scheduled procedure.)  So I went to Erin’s house alone and waited there for Dan to take me to her car, and I drove to Delaware? to meet them.

And there he was, in his little infant hospital gown.  He was tired and the most adorable grumpy “old” man I’d ever seen.  I loved him instantly.  It was painful not to be able to kiss him all over his cute little face.  He had survived his traumatic birth.  He’d survived being born with shoddy underdeveloped lungs.  He had survived this surgery.  Above all, he is obviously a survivor with a will to push on, and the strongest human I’ve ever met that doesn’t even weigh more than my dog.

Our family is so lucky to have the two most amazing babies.  Their stories are different, but they are wonderful in the same way.  Hazel and Daniel have brought so much joy to our family.  I look forward to the day that Erin gets to meet Hazel for the first time, so Erin can experience that “aunty” love at first sight.

Who knows what next year will bring?  I’m hoping for smooth sailing from here on out.  Hazel has started standing and her personality is really shining through.  She likes to “sing” and “dance.”  She loves to clap and blow spit bubbles (still.)  Daniel is learning to crawl and has the cutest belly laugh.  No, seriously.  It’s the cutest thing you’ll ever hear.  David will hopefully get a promotion and have all his hard work validated.  I’m hoping for a lot of Hazel and Daniel time this summer, and I’m looking forward to ringing in the new year in Illinois with family.

The moral of this story is don’t get pregnant at the same time as your sister or best friend.  It seems great in theory, but has the potential to be much, much worse.  Of course, now it’s pretty great because I can talk to her whenever I’m overwhelmed or overjoyed.  But still, heed my advice!!

Thanksgiving

Rather than put some lame status on facebook about what I’m thankful for, I thought I’d take the time to write it out here.

First of all, I’m so thankful that I get to live in a place (south Texas) where it’s 70 degrees in the last few days of November.  Today was beautiful and we enjoyed having our feast with the windows open and the sun shining in.

I’m thankful for my family.  I have this pretty cool husband who would do anything for us, and I love him so much.  I feel so lucky to say I’ve been married to him for over five years, and luckier to say that I think we will have quite a few more ahead of us.  I also have the good fortune of being a mother to the sweetest baby girl I’ve ever met.  She is bright and happy and loving, and so much fun to spend every day with.  We laugh a lot and she lets me give her probably a thousand kisses every day and even gives kisses back sometimes, though they’re quite a lot more slobbery than the ones I give her.

I’m thankful for my sister, whom I can complain to about anything that is annoying and rejoice with when everything is going right.  I never knew how strong she is until this march when our babies were born under completely opposite circumstances, and it makes me love her even more.  I can’t even explain how thankful I am that her baby is here today to celebrate the holidays, and I love him so much even though I’ve only met him once.  He is perfect and healthy.  He has such strength for being such a little guy.

I’m thankful for my best friends.  I love our group texts everyday and I miss you so much.  I look forward to the next time we’ll be together again.

I’m thankful that we have food to eat everyday and a place to live and that we have stability in our lives.  A lot of people don’t have what I have, and I’m grateful for all of this every day.  I am thankful for my dog, Alex, who makes me feel less alone while being a stay at home mom.  He also keeps all my secret musings to himself.

There are a lot of things I’m thankful for this year, and every year, and I am most thankful for good health because this gives me time to enjoy the ride that is life.  I am so thankful I can look forward to the future and take comfort in time itself.