Men, Women & Children

 

I think this movie looks great.  Really makes you think about the world wide internets.  For me, the internet was really born for home use when I was a child.  I used it mostly in school for research, but I remember how much it’s changed.  At home, we didn’t really use it for anything other than AOL where I would chat with friends and check email.  When I got to high school is when things started to change.  I could interact with people who weren’t my friends thanks to myspace, which I joined in 2004.  I could download music FOR FREE, albeit illegally.  By my senior year we didn’t use dial up anymore, so I could IM my friends all hours of the day.  Now we all know what the internet is and we all have it.  And none of us can live without it.

It’s a scary, isolating, alienating, place that can also be wonderful, full of knowledge and exploration, and open your eyes to issues you never even knew existed.  It can raise millions of dollars for charities, while giving thieves the opportunity to steal your identity or credit cards.  It’s a place you can socialize with your “friends” that you don’t really care enough to talk to in real life (IRL) and a place where you can be senselessly bullied and belittled by strangers.  It’s terrible and great and all consuming in our lives. 

One thing I really love about my iPhone is Instagram.  I can share pictures and moments in my life with people I choose, and I can see their memories, too.  It’s also a place full of children, which I really can’t understand for the life of me.  Why are there ten year olds on there?  Surely their parents aren’t monitoring them when they write on Jeffree Star’s photos “your fukin gay go kill urself.”  It seriously makes me nauseous sometimes, seeing what hateful garbage these kids can spew these days.  They hide behind the big bad internet to say things to people they wouldn’t normally say in person.  And why do they have so much hate for a person they don’t know?  What’s going on with them at home that they feel like they should get on Instagram to try to make people feel miserable?  It’s one of the reasons I left facebook.  But facebook is even worse because you get adults saying things like “you’re stupid and worthless.”  They forget people are real on the internet.  They don’t think about that person behind the photo.  

We are so into our virtual worlds that we don’t even remember that there are other people living in it.  It is sickening, and it’s sad.  I really don’t miss facebook at all.  Not even a little bit.  I don’t want to be a part of something that makes other people so rude and IRL makes them distant.  Why is it okay to see a family of four at a restaurant all on their phones?  I make it a point not to look at mine in a restaurant OR at dinner in my own house.  I am worthy of attention face to face, and so are you.  I love the internet for my true love Amazon and google where I can find out anything in three seconds, and I wouldn’t have met David without it.  However, maybe it’s time to look at how much “social” media hurts, and just not let it be normal to crave “likes” instead of real human interaction. 

 

© Carli Garrison and cllgarrison, 2014